Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Marriage, Month 1

Today is our 1 month anniversary, and although I have a horrible sinus infection that completely ruined my weekend*, I’m at work (alone today), and I thought I’d take my morning break to write about marriage so far. 

Matt and I really haven’t had that much trouble adjusting to each other.  I think the hardest hurdle has been adjusting to who does what around the house, and getting “alone” time.  I need alone time more than Matt does, so we are working on it.  An hour here and there is just fine for me.** 

Honestly, the hardest thing has been other people.  From snide remarks about our sex life to well meaning sympathizers telling us that their marriage was so hard at first, it’s been a little disconcerting and very, very annoying.  If I want help, if I need advice, I’ll ask.  Otherwise, I’m not really going to dish about how:

  • “Oh, I just hate it that Matt leaves his clothes all over the floor.” (Because that’s me, not him.)
  • “He snores so loud!” (Again, me not him.)
  • “He never makes the bed!” (That’s both of us).

I’m a pretty private person in general.  I don’t talk about my feelings or personal matters.  I have to force myself here on the blog, but I feel obligated to share the truth about the first year of marriage.  So I really hate it when coworkers and acquaintances want me to complain about Matt and marriage in general. 

Because so far?  Marriage is awesome.  (And I’m not talking about the sex.)

*We hosted game night at our house on Saturday, and some people made a few snide remarks about how bare the house was, so I did manage to make it to Jo-Ann’s on Monday to get fabric for some lovely curtains and a few wooden decorations.  I settled on colors for the house – the bedroom is purple, and the kitchen/living room is pink, red (think wine colored), and brown.  We have a black leather couch, but who cares.  So now I am hemming the curtains, and I’ll post pictures when I’m done.

I had purchased red gingham for the kitchen curtains, but Matt is insisting I return the fabric and get some thing else.  I happen to like red gingham, but he is letting me have a very girly pretty house, so I can’t complain too much about having to get different fabric.

** I think Matt doesn’t like to leave me alone because one night before the wedding, he and one of his friends went out and left me alone at the apartment, and I had a panic attack.  But that was more from him being with that friend, since I knew that friend was trying to talk Matt out of getting married.    


  1. Ooo, I can't wait to see pictures!!!! : ) Those sound like very fun colors. : )

  2. I'm glad that you are having such a wonderful time in your marriage. It is discouraging having couples tell you all the negative things about marriage, but it's great to hear about those that are loving every minute of it! : )