Marriage, Month 1

Today is our 1 month anniversary, and although I have a horrible sinus infection that completely ruined my weekend*, I’m at work (alone today), and I thought I’d take my morning break to write about marriage so far. 

Matt and I really haven’t had that much trouble adjusting to each other.  I think the hardest hurdle has been adjusting to who does what around the house, and getting “alone” time.  I need alone time more than Matt does, so we are working on it.  An hour here and there is just fine for me.** 

Honestly, the hardest thing has been other people.  From snide remarks about our sex life to well meaning sympathizers telling us that their marriage was so hard at first, it’s been a little disconcerting and very, very annoying.  If I want help, if I need advice, I’ll ask.  Otherwise, I’m not really going to dish about how:

• “Oh, I just hate it that Matt leaves his clothes all over the floor.” (Because that’s me, not him.)
• “He snores so loud!” (Again, me not him.)
• “He never makes the bed!” (That’s both of us).

I’m a pretty private person in general.  I don’t talk about my feelings or personal matters.  I have to force myself here on the blog, but I feel obligated to share the truth about the first year of marriage.  So I really hate it when coworkers and acquaintances want me to complain about Matt and marriage in general. 

Because so far?  Marriage is awesome.  (And I’m not talking about the sex.)

*We hosted game night at our house on Saturday, and some people made a few snide remarks about how bare the house was, so I did manage to make it to Jo-Ann’s on Monday to get fabric for some lovely curtains and a few wooden decorations.  I settled on colors for the house – the bedroom is purple, and the kitchen/living room is pink, red (think wine colored), and brown.  We have a black leather couch, but who cares.  So now I am hemming the curtains, and I’ll post pictures when I’m done.

I had purchased red gingham for the kitchen curtains, but Matt is insisting I return the fabric and get some thing else.  I happen to like red gingham, but he is letting me have a very girly pretty house, so I can’t complain too much about having to get different fabric.

** I think Matt doesn’t like to leave me alone because one night before the wedding, he and one of his friends went out and left me alone at the apartment, and I had a panic attack.  But that was more from him being with that friend, since I knew that friend was trying to talk Matt out of getting married.