Engagement Party Recovery

It is official.  I am a Bridezilla. 

Let me explain.  Yesterday was my engagement party (to Matt), and this past week has been an absolute frenzy of preparation.  I had paper chains to make, bunting to sew, and cake pops to prepare. 

Friday night after Matt picked me up from work, we were driving to Alin Party Supply to place the balloon order ($0.99 a balloon!  Rediculous!), and I was upset because a LOT of people said they couldn't make it (we invited about 80 people).  I said to Matt, "If K**** ever gets married, we are not going to her engagement party because she didn't come to ours!!"  And I said that about everyone that declined our invitation.  Matt must have been like, "Where did this monster come from and how do I not marry her?!?" 

By the time we got to Gina's to make taco salad and sandwiches, I was (almost) calmed down.  We had a good time at her house.  She made lasagna roll ups - they were sooo good!!

So then we get back to my house about 10:30 pm, and Matt was running a fever.  Not a big deal, he could be dehydrated or his thumbs could be fighting an infection.  I send him off to bed, then start the white cake and the lemon tart.  (OMG the lemon tart was SO GOOD!  The white cake.... more about that later.)

Saturday morning, Matt woke up with a 102.6 fever.  I finished the cake pops, the two cakes, and the taco salad.  Mom, Kim and I cleaned the front yard and decorated the back yard.  I got gorgeous flowers at the farmers market.  Matt's fever broke (thank God), and he helped set up the chairs.  I had the fastest shower ever, and I looked very pretty. 

The party was a great success.  Beth brought watermelon, Mom made oatmeal cookies and potato salad, and Sharon brought a veggie platter. 

I made:

Taco Salad (my grandmother made this when I was a child - so good!)

Blackberry Tart - which I forgot about - but it is sooo good!!!!  More for me!!

Lemon Tart - AMAZING.  It is a new favorite.  But must add tart pan to registry...

Cake Pops - These were a HUGE hit.  I should have made more.  I will make perhaps 200 for the wedding, even though it is SO time intensive!!

Spice Cake - from a box, was not really eaten

And then some snickerdoodle and chocolate chip cookies.

But I made this gorgeous white cake.  Truely  - gorgous.  I'm not going to post the link, because the recipe has been corrected, and I will try this again with better results.  The problem was, the recipe I copied three weeks ago listed 4 teaspoons baking soda.  The recipe corrected 10 days ago listed 4 teaspoons baking powder!!  I hadn't checked back to read comments, which I should have.  I'm a good baker.  I am.  So that this recipe tasted awful was mortifying!  Luckily only one person tried it, and I put it away when I realized it was bad.  But wow.  People need to PROOFREAD THEIR RECIPES.

Today, Matt is resting.  He has a virus.  Of course.  :)  I slept and slept and slept, cleaned the house, and wrote thank you cards. 

Here are pictures from the party.  As more are posted on Facebook, I will share more.

Matt and Me

My parents, Kim (sister)

Kim

Cousin Heidi, Aunt Debbie, Cousin Chris

(note the pretty paper chains - which are carefully saved for the wedding)

Cousin James, Beth (sister), Mike (sister's boyfriend)

So You Don't Want to Look like a Princess...

Well guess what - you don't have to. 

 

This is in response to this blog:

 

http://www.eastsidebride.com/2011/06/seeking-plus-size-dress-thats-not-mess.html

 

OK ladies.  If you're plus sized - heck, if you are any size, you are going to find it difficult to find clothes that fit you.  But shopping doesn't have to be painful.  Not at all!  You simply need to know what kind of clothes fit you well.  For me, it is dresses with a full skirt ending about knee length.  Generally sleeveless or strapless, and I throw on a bolero or sweater.  Jeans don't really work for me.  I look best in 50's style dresses.  And that's what I shop for.  I don't try on scads of sheaths, only to despair when they freaking won't go over my hips!!  I get dresses with lots of room down below. 

 

So.  Now it's time to get married.  And you don't want to wear a.... a what?  A mess?  Pfft.  So you don't like lace and beading and halter dresses.  Stop freaking complaining, go to a store that you normally shop at, and freaking get a dress in white!  Or ivory!  Or pink!  But stop freaking complaining about it!!!  And don't call dresses I LIKE a mess!  Because I like poofy princess dresses!! (OK - not halter, either - those just look weird.)  But seriously!  You are not better than me because you are choosing a non-bridal gown for your courthouse wedding.  And it feels like you're trying to be better than me just because I'm going the traditional route, at least, as far as dresses go. 

 

And honestly, there are SOOO many places to find dresses, you don't need to write in complaining that you cannot find a dress.  Pul-eeze.  You're just begging for attention.

Photo Collage

This is a drawing of a project I want do make for the wedding.

 

You build a frame, and then tie pictures on ribbon, and hang the pictures from the frame.

 

Pictures used can be loved ones that have passed on, or your parents and grandparents wedding pictures.

The Pretty

I didn't want an engagement ring.  I don't like how women compare rings, sizing each other up by the piece of decay on their left ring finger.  So when Matt and I got engaged, I did the practical thing: insisted on matching recycled sterling silver rings.  Bonus: they were $15 on www.etsy.com. 

Gina send me the below photo of a stunning yellow sapphire ring she wants when she gets engaged.  First thought when I saw it?  "I want that!"  It's a gorgeous ring, with sparkling diamonds surrounding the sapphire.  Personally, I think sapphires are the prettiest gemstones: pink, blue, yellow - all gorgeous. 

So then I started thinking about my birthday (in 17 days, thank you very much).  I'm not expecting anything grand or extravagant.  Money is not exactly tight, but we don't have extra to spend on frivolous presents.  I'm asking for Jo-Ann's gift cards - I have wedding dress fabric to buy, and it's expensive.  More on that another time. 

But seeing that ring - oh! the pretty! - made me wish I was getting something impractical.  I wouldn't wear it as an engagement ring, just as a "Oh this old thing?  It was a birthday present" kind of ring.  But maybe next year.  Maybe then I can get the pretty.  Maybe things will go right and Matt won't lose his job and I'll be hired on at the company I currently work for (or land another year contract at another company immediately) and maybe we can spend money on pretty.  Right now, we can't.  I'm okay with that, but sometimes there are fleeting moments (like now) when, honestly, I'm a little resentful.  I know Matt has only been out of work five days, but I don't have much faith that things will improve in the long term.  I feel guilty for being resentful, because I'm the one that picked Matt.  :)

Wow, that was a lot.  And all of this over a silly ring.  Now you see why I didn't want an engagement ring?  ;)   

Oops!

Sorry guys - I'm experimenting with a new mobile upload thing.  Continued!!

Now the stands must be assembled for the engagement party this weekend... Yes, an engagement party!!!  Squeee!!!!

Last night I spend 3 hours cutting paper strips for paper chains.  Matt is coming over tonight, so he gets to make them and make an "engagement party here" sign.  Oh!! I need to order balloons!!  Tonight I am starting cake pops and sewing bunting.  Matt also gets to glue the cake stands.  

Too much to do!!!

At work, the main program (that we cannot work without) is being redone, so I am filing and unpacking my last 3 crates.  And I think Jackie needs help with a subpoena.  So at least I will stay busy!)

Gina, Matt, and I went thrifting this weekend, looking for plates/candlesticks to make cake stands. Found quite a few great finds at the AIDS thrift store in Long Beach. This is Gina at the Feed Store right next to the AIDS store.

An Interesting Weekend

This past week was rather slow and boring, until Friday midday.

I got a text from Matt: "I might not be able to go to the observatory (Griffith) tonight.  I cut my fingers."

This was obviously more than a paper cut, so I started to freak out when he didn't text me back.  Finally, hours later, he told me he had gotten stitches, and he was okay.  I left work early on Friday (we moved from the 16th floor to the 27th floor of the Gas Tower), so I went to meet him at Universal City Station. 

What happened is that he was trying to drill a hole in a razor blade to make a scraper, but the blade started to spin and cut his thumbs.  Unfortunately, the company he was working for has a policy that if a temp worker gets hurt, the assignment is ended.  So, Matt lost his job.

We are financially okay; hopefully Matt will get unemployment insurance, but my income is just enough to pay all the bills and leave a little extra for fun.  We will have to use unemployment to pay for the wedding, and then when Matt gets a new job, we will use his income to pay for the wedding and for our apartment. 

Hopefully life settles down quickly.