Wedding Memories, Documented

What do I do now?  For the past 6 months, most of Matt’s and my free time has revolved around the wedding, save the few occasions with friends.  I’m tired from the wedding.  I’m tired of the wedding.  I know I said earlier today I didn’t want to talk about it, but I need to get my memories out before I forget about them.  I need this documented.

The day wasn’t really a blur.  I remember waking up at 5:30 and finishing most of the place cards – which were then forgotten.  :)  Which mostly turned out to be a good thing, except two of my friends were sitting by themselves, and left early.  I took a shower,  but didn’t wash my hair.  It got a little wet though.  I had put it in a bun to keep it dry, and then forgot to avoid the shower head.  So I got slightly wet.  Oh well.  Then Beth moussed my hair, and I started to steam my wedding dress.  I couldn’t get all the wrinkles out, so about halfway through the morning I broke out the iron, using that on most of the train.

Trinity and Beth spent the night, but Shanna was the first to arrive.  Then Brittany came, then Gina.  Gina and Brittany went and got coffee while Beth started to work on putting hot rollers in.  Shanna worked on Trinity’s hair.  (It was amazing.)  Tiffany arrived right before 8 am to do makeup.  She started with Brittany, then Trinity, then me, Gina, Beth, and Shanna.  Beth did Gina’s hair, and Shanna did Brittany’s.  Beth then worked on her own hair, and Shanna did hers, and both Shanna and Beth worked on mine. 

We were finally ready to do about 10:15.  Mom and Dad had loaded up all the cars with stuff to go.  Trinity and I went in my car, and I listened slightly to Car Talk.  Mostly I just was thinking.  I asked myself, “Was this really what I wanted?  Was I sure I didn’t want to call it off?”  Each time, I realized I just couldn’t wait to marry Matt, the love of my life. 

When we got to church, I unloaded the car.  I had the flowers, Gina’s dress, and my wedding dress.  We got there about 11, which was an hour late.  Aunt Debbie and Aunt Ruthie were already in the kitchen doing the food.  I saw the cake.  It was gorgeous.  Just what I wanted.  :)  The Santa’s showed up and helped do the food, which was wonderful.

We set up in a classroom, and I spent about half an hour running around.  Then I got dressed.  Mom helped me into my wedding dress.  I had lost the modesty panel, so we pinned white fabric into the space it was supposed to be.  Then we went and took pictures.  Shanna yelled at everyone to get them in position. 

Then we went and touched up our makeup.  We wrapped the bouquets and pinned on the boutonnières.  Mom put my veil on.  We both almost cried.  It was probably my favorite moment of the day. 

Not a lot of people were there at 1, so we waited a while.  Still not a lot of people were there, but we started.  I think we were only about 15 minutes late. 

Then I walked down the aisle.  I remember listening for the cue.  But we still walked faster than I anticipated.  I couldn’t see Matt.  He was hidden behind the guests.  I remember Dad giving me away.  And then the ceremony started.  Shanna sang her lovely song, Robert and Gina read.  Then Andrew got up.  Instead of reading “I carry your heart”, he read the lyrics to “That’s Amore.”  Had he read a couple stanza’s and then said, “No, I’m just kidding.  Here’s the real poem,” I would have been happy.  It would have been funny.  But it wasn’t funny, and I don’t know what to do.  I haven’t gotten an apology.  It’s my favorite poem – has been for almost 12 years.  Matt thinks I should let it go – but here’s the thing – you only get 1 shot at a wedding.  And I worked so hard to make it good.  I don’t know if I’ll ever trust Andrew with anything of importance.  But… life goes on, right? 

The minister deviated from the carefully crafted script.  He completely ignored the ring ceremony I wanted.  I wish Matt would have let us hire someone we knew would stick to our script, but he insisted we hire a minister.  I’ll never go to Calvary Chapel Monrovia though.  No use fretting – he is out of our lives. 

My bouquet was extremely heavy.  Gina had to take it early. 

The vows were perfect. 

The unity ceremony went off well.

Then we were married.  The recessional CD didn’t play.  I should have checked it first, but we ran out of time.  We went and walked out anyway.  :)

We got to say hi to everyone in the receiving line.  I’m glad we did it. 

Then we went to sign the marriage license.  Gina and Robert were the witnesses.   Then Robert announced us in the social hall.

The food was amazing.  I loved the cucumber sandwiches, the ambrosia.  We had a good about of food.  No one went hungry. 

Then we played “Wedding Jeopardy”.  Trinity and Sharon led it.  Then we did the toasts.  Gina’s was great.  Shanna’s was funny – it was an Irish toast.  I said thank you to my aunts.  Mom read a sweet story to me.  Dad was awesome. 

Then we cut the cake.  It was chocolate raspberry and vanilla strawberry.  Matt didn’t know what we were supposed to do.  Also the knife broke.  Oh well.  :)  We did not smash cake in each other’s faces. 

People were starting to leave, and tear down.  So I decided to end the reception an hour early, and at 4:30, we did the rice/flag waving.  Rice was everywhere!!  :)  It was awesome. 

One of our friends paid for a hotel room for us in Anaheim.  We stopped at the house, changed, opened presents, and I got a lot of my stuff.  I cried when I left.  I’ve lived in that house forever.  Leaving – knowing I am never coming back – is super hard.  I’m still tearing up.

We went to Hotel Ménage and spent the night there.   We got room service and watched Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.  Or Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory.  The old one – whatever.  I fell asleep part way through it, and woke up about 5 AM.  I took my hairpins out, washed all my makeup off, and Matt and I took off to find the vending machines.  They had toothbrush kits but not comb kits.   I had forgotten a comb/brush, so I used tons of conditioner and got all the tangles out in the shower.  Then I blew dry my hair in the right way.

We had breakfast at the Spires on Ball/Euclid, the same Spires where my parents had their first breakfast together.  It was quite fitting.

Then we went to the church to grab all the tuxes and return them.  We had gaming later that day, and then after that, we grabbed groceries and went to our new little home. 

Did I love my wedding?  I did not love planning it.  I loved the way I looked.  I loved my dress.  I loved the flowers.  I loved the way the wedding party looked.  Dad was SO HANDSOME.  He looked good.  Almost as good as Matt.  :)  I loved that we spent less than $5,000.  I did not love that we had to decorate at 9 pm on Friday.  I loved that we used the same wedding song as my grandparents, and we were married on their 62^nd anniversary.  I loved that we remembered my Aunt Beckie, who is with Jesus.  (We donated to Susan G. Komen for the Cure.)  I loved that I was surrounded by my family and friends.  I am so glad that my family is completely awesome.  Even Matt said my family is amazing.  :)

So, I think I did love my wedding.  We have so much support and love from those around us, and it really showed.  I am so happy, and I think this next year is going to be really awesome.  I’m so excited to share it with you, my readers.

Married

We are married.

Updates later when I am not so exhausted, and I actually feel like talking about the wedding.

10 Days Out

Well, dear readers, the time is drawing near.  And after my complaints previously, Matt and I decided to heck with what we planned, and we are rearranging the reception.

 

We can comfortably fit 144 people, which is grand, because including us, 117 have said “YES! We are coming!”  So that leaves about 25 extra seats for lame people that don’t RSVP.  (Just kidding.)  So now I am working on a seating chart and place cards.  It’s almost finished.  I need to find out two peoples last names and then I can print it out. 

 

We added cucumber sandwiches and radish sandwiches to the menu, as well as fruit and cheese platters and veggie platters.  The ambrosia, cupcakes, and cookies will round that out, and we will have lemonade, tea, coffee, and water to drink.  Wedding cake will complete the menu.  So it should be a rather light luncheon.  People won’t be able to stuff themselves, but they will not leave hungry.

 

After we eat, we are going to play games.  I am scouring my family’s game cupboard for at least 20 games to have available, and then we will pick up 8 – 10 sets of playing cards, along with instructions for playing different kinds of games.  We may also pick up some 100 piece puzzles. 

 

After that, we are going to do open mike toasting, and then we will cut the cake.  At about 5:30, Matt and I will take our leave, and then cleanup.  I think it will be a very fun time.

The weekend, relaxing

Guys, this weekend was so nice.  I spent Friday night in NoHo, and Matt and I ate tacos and watched House.  I also chipped my tooth – I was in bed, holding my phone over my head, and I dropped it!  Oh no!  It’s barely noticeable.

 

On Saturday we met with Pastor Schork, of Calvary Chapel Monrovia. He will be marrying us.  Afterwards, we went to the fashion district, and I got earrings and pretty things for my hair.  Then we went to ULTA, and I got a couple lipsticks for the wedding.  That night, I dyed my hair… for the first time in like 18 months… tried the nail polish for the wedding (pretty!), and did a facial mask.  I feel pretty… J

 

Sunday was super low key.  We went to church, but left almost immediately.  It was just too cold.  Matt was in a jacket, and he was freezing.  I was in a dress and cardigan, and it was just awful.  We got movies from Blockbuster, did the grocery shopping, and went back to church that night to make the programs and menus for the wedding. 

 

A very relaxing weekend, but with only 12 days left until the wedding, it’s crunch time!!!

Not gonna lie...

I'm feeling a little upset right now.  I'm not in the mood to track down RSVP's for the wedding, because everyone that didn't RSVP is saying no.

So maybe I should just go with the assumption that they won't show up.  

And that's really disappointing to me, because HAD I KNOWN only about 100 people would make it, I would have had sandwiches or pasta or something.  I would have tables and chairs.  I would have seating charts.  

But I thought more of my family would come.  I thought more church people would come.  It doesn't help that there's no church directory, and I know a lot of people didn't get an invitation.  

It's not that I want more people there.  I just was misinformed, and I planned a wedding with bad information.  Oops. Well that sucks

The Weekend, Revisited

Thanksgiving was awesome.  Except for being sick the whole time.  Wednesday night was Gina’s potluck, and hers was hands down the best turkey.  She put fruit in it as it baked, so that might be what did it.  After that, we went home and I worked until about 4 AM on packing.  I couldn’t sleep – too congested.  So I worked until I was exhausted, and then I slept. 

 

On Thanksgiving, we had my family get together, which was fun, except I laid down for most of it.  Then we had Matt’s family gathering.  I watched The Grinch while everyone baked, and then ate, and then slept until time to go home.

 

The morning after, we took all my old kitchen supplies and signed the lease!!!!  Dan from church helped us move a bed from Long Beach (barely used Ikea box spring and mattress - $60!), so that was super helpful.  We went to Target and used all our gift cards from the wedding shower to buy sheets (no one gave us sheets?  What?) and a comforter and a good amount of cleaning and laundry supplies.  Since, like, we have to start cleaning in a week.  Because I am not letting the apartment get dirty.  (Well, a little.  But controllably.)

 

On Saturday after a lovely breakfast at Denny’s (we not allowed to eat out until Valentine’s Day – we both gained a lot of weight over the past 6 months since we have been eating out WAY too much), I took the train home, and wrote out all the thank-you cards for the showers.  Yay!!!  J  My hand really hurt after that.*

 

Anyway, after that, I held a bridesmaid’s tea, which was lovely, and we got everything squared away.  Then Matt came over, and we had dinner with my parents, and we washed dishes for them, and then we got The Maltese Falcon at Blockbuster.  Matt liked it.  I fell asleep about 10 minutes in.  (I’ve seen it before, and I think it is excellent!) 

 

On Sunday, Matt had projection, so we left early for church.  After that, we came back to the house and did crafting all afternoon, except when we stopped to get groceries for Matt for the week.  I cut all the fringe streamers.  Mike and Beth came over and helped, and that was really sweet and awesome.

 

Here are a couple pictures of the apartment.  The first is the kitchen, and how small it is.  I want Matt to either build or buy a large cabinet to use as a pantry.  We have the space for that. 

 

 

The second picture is of the bed… Pretty purple comforter!

 

 

* And also – if you are reading this, and I accidentally said thank-you for the wrong thing (which I really tried not to do), it’s because at the last shower, Matt and I were not allowed to open gifts at the shower, and so we did so while pumping gas after the shower (cuz we were super excited, right?), and I took all the cards out and read them all on the way home that night, and so everyone’s card got separated from their gift…  Now, if we had opened the presents at the shower, I would have had someone make a list of who got what.  Like people normally do at showers.  So, I’m really sorry if I think you for, like, sheets, when you didn’t get me sheets (no one did – just an example – and I’m not upset that no one got us sheets, so don’t think that!  I happen to know we are getting some as a Christmas present).  But I’m pretty sure I got it all straight!! 

 

The Weekend, Amazing

This weekend was fabulous.

 

On Friday, we celebrated Kim’s graduation from Kindergarten, and then we saw Breaking Dawn with Gina, Robert, and Jocelyn.

 

On Saturday, Gina and I went to Vegas.  We stayed at MGM, and had a fantastic time.

 

 

At the Coca Cola store – a Barq’s Red Crème Soda Float.

 

 

At the Sugar Factory – they put dry ice in their drinks to make it fog.

 

 

A barbershop quartet that was freaking amazing!

 

 

It was raining on our way home.  In the Cajon pass, we could barely see two car lengths ahead. 

 

 

On Sunday night, we had a bridal shower.  It was quite fun. 

 

 

Sunrise this morning.

 

The holidays are upon us.  Tonight I am taking sweet potatoes to Gina’s house for a gathering there, and then tomorrow we have my family’s gathering in mid-day, and Matt’s family gathering in the evening.  Then, we will come back to my house, because we have to pack all my stuff for moving!   Yes, we get our keys on Friday.  We are trying to arrange to move almost everything Friday, so then we won’t have to borrow trucks or anything except for the one day.  Also because we are super duper busy through New Year’s!

 

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.